By:: Mijanne
My name is Mijanne and I am a people pleaser. I have always been this way. I am always worried about what everyone thinks. And making sure everyone else is happy. I never say no. Like really never. I have this fear if I say no someone wont like me or I will disappoint them. And to me disappointed someone is like the end of the world to me. I will pack my schedule so tight so that I am always watching my clock. I am constantly 2-3 minutes late to everything because I forgot about drive time. I have meetings, lunch dates, hang out times that last only about an hour until I have to get to the next one. And that is just my social life. When I work its even worse. Because I continue this life after I get off of being on set for 17 hours and I am exhausted but I still feel this need to see people. Again you might think that I am just super busy and great a time management. Wrong! I suck! Because of my inability to say no I just say yes. With no thoughts. There is never a time where I say “one moment let me check my calendar” or even think for five seconds. Its like the word no can not form on my tongue. So in turn I say yes all the time and I just figured it out. Which results in me being over committed or letting someone down because I have to change plans. I had a big slap in the face last Tuesday about this when I let down my fellow nourish ladies because I over committed. In the end I keep learning that I am actually disappointing people more because I am tired when I get that small amount of time with them, or I have canceled with them, or they are on such a tight schedule with me that they don’t feel like they can have an actual relationship with me. So I know that January is almost over but my new years resolution is to say no. And maybe you should try it too. When you are making your calendar for the week make sure you schedule in time for yourself. Time where you can read or sleep, go to the gym, maybe bake. Things that give you life. Don’t forget about them because those will allow you to have healthier relationships with others because you are healthy yourself.
